This article seeks to explain how habitual worrying can rob us of a happy productive life and the importance of changing how we think.
Rates of depression and anxiety among teenagers have increased by 70% in the past 25 years. These statistics show that it is highly important for parents and teachers to be alert to know the signs and symptoms of depression in teenagers.
When depression sets in it has the ability to take over and affect just about every aspect of our lives; Our relationships, sleep, productivity at work, libido, social life and diet. It can seem that nothing is working in our lives and we have overwhelming feelings of hopelessness. This negative cycle of hopelessness and despair is like being on a runaway train. You can, however, pull the emergency chain to halt the train of depression and take specific steps to feel better.
Many adult survivors of incest have undergone therapy, perhaps joined support groups and even confronted the perpetrator. No matter how much healing we do it seems that we are never truly healed and the effects of what happened is so deeply embedded in us that it becomes a part of our core identity.
When a parent or caretaker uses the child for their own sexual gratification they are meeting their own needs and simply de humanizing the child. The child is there simply to fulfil their needs and thus becomes an object. Because the parent is an authority figure the child is powerless. Adult survivors of incest have an underlying core belief about themselves and the environment:-
There are many areas of our lives that may burden us; The never-ending to-do lists, obligations to others, relationship entanglements. These burdens can overwhelm us and have a negative impact on our physical, mental and emotional health as well as our relationships and productivity and effectiveness in the workplace.
When we get rid of the things that are weighing us down we can lighten up and open ourselves up to new possibilities and positive energies.
You cannot change what you do not acknowledge so the first step is to take stock.
Combat the cycle of depression! In my previous two newsletters I have discussed the cycle of depression (black and white all-or-nothing thinking styles, “over-thinking”) and it’s effects (exhaustion, de-motivation, isolation, increased stress levels, feelings of hopelessness, and thus experiencing fewer pleasant experiences). Due to de-motivation the depressed person will often isolate him/herself and these results in basic human needs not being met. Depression is maintained by introspection and inactivity!
I have previously discussed how meditation can give the brain a break, helps the body to recuperate, lowers anxiety levels, improves sleep and helps a person think more clearly. Committing to daily meditation is the first step in taking action to combat this cycle of depression.