So many clients who have feelings, habits, behaviours that they cannot control. They have troubled relationships and cannot attract someone that they can love and who loves them in return. What they don’t understand is that a lot of our current pain comes from the way we were brought up. This article explains why you need to shed your past
We know that being kind to others is a virtue that is held dear. What about being kind to yourself? What are the impacts of not showing yourself kindness?
Many of us eat when there is an absence of hunger. We may eat because it is “time” to eat or in response to our emotions, such as to celebrate, when we are angry, lonely, sad, frustrated. In my last article I discussed tuning in to your body whenever you find yourself thinking about or searching for food. It is also essential to manage your thinking which can either motivate or demotivate you towards your goal. These two components associate with emotions and manage thinking to lose weight are essential if the loss is to be permanent.
For many of us our “go to” place when we are worried, bored, stressed, angry, upset or hurt is to eat. Often this is something we learned as children; Perhaps our parents would give us food to soothe us when we hurt ourselves or were upset. Conversely food is a cause of celebration and reward. Over time our associations to food become embedded in our neural pathways and we unconsciously turn to food in response to our emotions rather than eat only when there is a physiological need for food to fuel our body.
There are a number of strategies that we can use to break the habit of comfort eating
Diets are usually pretty restrictive and typically we will avoid situations where “bad” food or food that is not prescribed our diet sheet will be served; When invited to social occasions, the dieter’s first thought is “what can I eat”, “how will I cope” “I can’t go”. It really doesn’t have to be this way, you don’t have to keep beating yourself up; Instead you can make self-nurturing a priority and get excited about living life to the full with health and vitality and shift your focus from deprivation to benefits of being slim. The benefits of a desired outcome are personal and differ from person to person. These benefits become our “why”. If we focus on “why” it is important to do something then our thought processes are specific and positive which motivate us to stay focused on our goals. Here is how you determine your personal benefits
What is common among just about everyone who has weight challenges is that the person is either “on a diet” or “off a diet” and as soon as they are “off a diet” they resume their old habits; The results are fairly predictable as they return to the very eating habits and lifestyle that caused them to be overweight in the first place. What they don’t realize is that they need to identify what they are doing on a daily basis which contributes to their weight gain and then they can make appropriate lifestyle changes and thus ditch the diet to be slim and healthy.
When I meet clients for the first time there are several key questions I will ask to help them identify what is perpetuating the weight gain. Here are some key questions you can ask yourself :-