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Prioritizing Values

Prioritizing Values.  In my previous two newsletters we talked about identifying your beliefs, helping you to recognize your emotional needs and to clarify your values. When you are cognisant of your beliefs, needs and values and you are honouring them then there is very little that could thwart your motivation in striving for your goals.  Having clarified your values previously I am now going to show you how you can prioritize them.

First of all let’s recap and look at what values are and how important it is for us to honour them:-

The most important thing you could ever do for yourself in your life is to clarify your values.  Values provide a compass and a direction every moment of our lives.

Values are the standards and guidelines we use to navigate through life but they are far more than that.  Everything we do in life is implicitly or explicitly tested against our values, like our own very personal “anti-virus” of the mind.  When last did you “update” yours?

Your values hold the key to your motivation – so if you have ever found yourself procrastinating or holding back, your values were probably unclear.  In a real sense, there is no such thing as procrastination – only a poor motivation strategy!

Values are the key to happiness because values are the conditions that must be satisfied before we will give ourselves permission to be happy.

It is no accident that both the words e-motion and motivation suggest motives for action.  Clarify your values and motivation will be far less of an issue than it may have been until now.

Finally, values are a fundamental building block of your Mission in Life.  If you would like to have a sense of purpose in your life, you will find it at the intersection of your Values, your Skills and the things that bring you joy.

Your values are the principles that are most fundamental to you.  Your values do link into your needs, yet they can be independent of them.  Your values truly steer your motivation in a forward direction.  You have a strong need to feel loved that drives you to tell little white lies to your friends when the honest truth is far kinder but may cause them to be upset with you.  At the same time you can hold the value of honesty, which tells you that lying is wrong.  In this instance, a good way to satisfy both values is to hold the importance of honesty with the gift of compassion, so that you look for kind ways to tell your friends the direct truth.  This approach also feeds your need to be loved because your friends respect and honour you for caring.

Some of the values that you hold may be;

• To be compassionate

• To lead and inspire

• To experience and create joy

• To love and be loved

• To be the best you can be

• To make a contribution to the world

• To provide for your loved ones

• To leave a legacy for people to remember you by

• To create wealth

Some values appear on the list of needs too.  However, values and needs have a subtle difference.  A true value generates positive forward motion, helping you to fully enjoy your life and develop yourself and may also allow you to benefit those around you or the world in general.  Think about the pleasure you get when you sit and watch TV passively for several hours.  Sometimes you need it to comfort, relax and amuse you – but it doesn’t usually open up your horizons much.  On the other hand, watching a challenging film or reading a book that fascinates you, often helps you to feel that you’re more fully engaged with your world.  You feed your value of growth or self-development.

Meeting only your needs can sometimes take you further into  yourself so that you may behave in a more selfish way.  When you’re living a life that is in tune with your values – no-one else’s, you often find that you are in harmony with the world around you.

Living up to your own values isn’t always a bed of roses.  Tough and painful decisions and actions are part of the deal.  But you’ll find a world of difference between the discomfort that accompanies being true to yourself and the pain that goes with avoidance.  Some types of depression may be caused by avoiding living to your values – in depressing your instinct to be truly yourself you cause a physical depression, which can be your mind and body telling you to step up and take notice of your true values.

 

Prioritizing Your True Values

 

 

 

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1. Draw up a table like the one above.  Enter your top 10 values in the first column, in any order. (Examples are given here; your own list will be unique to you.).

2. Take the first value and compare it to all of the others on the list, one by one.

Place a tick against any value that you consider more important than the other.  Eg compare number one on list to number two, if number one is more important than number two place a tick in the first column next to that value;  Continue down the list  and make sure that you always compare a value with those below it, or you will end up double counting.

3. When comparing one value against another it is important to ask yourself What is important to me right now?”  “Right now” should be what you are focusing on as your values may well shift in priority over the years.  In order to move forward you need to be clear about the priority of your values right here, in the present.

4. When you have worked all the way down the list comparing number one value to all the other values, you now take the second value on the list and do the same with all the values below it.

5. When you have finished this exercise you can see which of your values have the most ticks in your boxes.  Now you can draw up a ranking from 1 – 10.  You may find that some rankings are equal.  You can go through the process again with these closely ranked values by asking yourself the choice question.  Having done this you may find that you have a final absolute ranking from 1 – 10 or maybe not and you feel happy that some values are clustered together in importance – it’s your choice they are your values!

6. Now that you have your values prioritized in this way, you can write down your thoughts on the following questions:

• Are there any surprises or even shocks for me in doing this exercise?

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• Are some values lower down the list than I thought they would be?  Are others much higher than I would have expected?

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• How happy am I with the way I am living my values every day?

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• How well do my current life goals align with my values as they are right now?

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Stage 4:  Define your values

You now have your top 10 list and you can start to define precisely what your values mean to you in the way you live your life.  This produces the detailed coordinates for your motivation map.

As you write out a definition ensure that it is meaningful to you and you are clear how it translates into action.  For example, some definitions might look like this:

My value of honesty means that I never avoid telling myself the truth even when it is painful to admit.

My value of fun means that I look for ways to laugh with team members every day and I spend an hour each day playing with my children.

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No. 3 Value

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In my next newsletter we shall be discussing how reflecting and being cognizant of your values will help you to stay motivated in working towards your goals.

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